When you married your spouse, you may have felt like the two of you were cut from the same cloth. Then again, your story might be more of an “opposites attract” type of situation. Either way, you no doubt expected that your wedding day was the first day of the rest of your lives together, until years started passing by and you encountered some problematic issues in your relationship that have prompted you to file for divorce in a Kansas court.
Most married couples encounter challenges in their relationships at some point. Some problems are more serious and difficult to resolve than others. If you believe that your spouse is a narcissist, it’s important to remember that narcissism is categorized as a personality disorder in the mental health industry.
Can you relate to these issues that are often precursors to divorce?
Have you ever heard someone say that they were in a room full of people yet felt lonely? Being married to a narcissist is similar to this. A spouse with narcissistic tendencies may try to isolate his or her spouse from others, especially close friends and extended family members. Perhaps loneliness and isolation influenced your decision to file for divorce.
Narcissists often set standards for others that are impossible to meet. If you and spouse have children, he or she might criticize your parenting skills constantly or otherwise show dissatisfaction toward the way you do things. Is your spouse jealous? Does that jealousy spark angry outbursts or harsh words or even accusations against you that are without merit?
These are all common characteristics of a person who has narcissistic personality disorder. Just as your spouse’s behavior may have caused an irreparable breakdown in your relationship, his or her narcissistic tendencies can cause financial, emotional or legal problems during divorce proceedings as well.
Know your rights and be ready to defend them
Kansas is an equitable property division state, which means that the judge overseeing your case will split marital property and debt between you and your ex in a fair manner but not necessarily 50/50. You and your spouse must fully disclose all pertinent information for the court to be able to make a fair decision.
If you have children, you must achieve a child custody agreement. If your spouse isn’t willing to cooperate or compromise, you might have your work cut out to obtain a fair settlement. The court always keeps children’s best interests in mind when making custody or child support decisions.
You should never hesitate to reach out for additional support if your spouse refuses to adhere to Kansas laws and guidelines in your divorce.